Who Am I?
After my daughter was born, I started struggling with what I now term “parental anxiety” – those awful feelings of failure and being completely overwhelmed.
But wait – I’m a parenting coach!
How could I feel like I was failing?
Parenting was supposed to be easy for me, right?
I discovered that parents often fall into the trap of being so overwhelmed by our busy schedules that you start to believe you have “no time” for anything, especially yourself and interpersonal relationships.
When I recognised this about myself, I literally decided to stop everything, simplify my life and take the necessary steps towards becoming a focused parent. Since then, I’ve dedicated my time to creating a 10-step parenting formula that I use to navigate my way through my daughter’s childhood. Us parents can take control of our busy schedules, reduce our parental anxiety and benefit from what now I term “focused parenting”. Through practicing the fundamental principles of this program, I parent with confidence (even when faced with inevitable parental challenges) and feel more relaxed than ever before. I’ve left feelings of “burnout” in the past and have an established routine which works for me. My healthy work/life balance allows me to be productive in my career while still having enough time and energy for my darling daughter, Grace.
My primary goal is to help busy parents everywhere feel supported on this amazing journey of parenthood by reducing everyday stresses, living more mindfully, and focusing on what really matters in this lifetime: your children.
About My Program
Who It Is For?
By working with Deborah, you will be given the framework to let go of limiting beliefs, reduce parental anxiety, organise your time more efficiently, become a calm-assertive communicator and restore balance into your family dynamics.
Who It Is Not For?
Parents who are self-assured and believe there is nothing wrong with their parenting practices.
Parents who are completely content with their own childhood memories and how they directly impact their children.
Parent who are calm-assertive communicators and are deeply connected to their children.
Parents who don’t suffer from stress and are completely relaxed in their home environment.
Parents who like to live in chaos.
Parents who are happy with their schedules and believe there is no room for improvement.
Parents who want to continue delegating most of their parenting duties to educators, nannies, cleaners, live in au pairs and extracurricular activities.
Identify and implement the 5 key elements of focused parenting into your family home.
Shift your mindset and start a self-care program that will instantly boost your motivation, increase your self-confidence, and improve your overall sense of wellbeing.
Understand the 5 key elements of focused parenting and how to integrate them into your family home. Increase those all-important endorphins by joining a health challenge for the duration of this course. Start taking positive steps towards becoming a “new you” and shift your mindset to a more productive way of thinking.
Time Poor to Time Rich
- Create a schedule for the week ahead by allocating suitable timeframes to each of the 3 pillars of time allocation.
- Use the “4 D’s funnel system” to prioritise tasks and learn to let go of what is outside of your influence.
- Start taking advantage of the top 10 time saving hacks for hard-working parents.
It’s time to create a schedule that is manageable and focuses on allocating your time appropriately. You will instantly become more productive by categorising your daily tasks using the 4 D’s funnel system and recognising to let go of things that are outside of your influence.
It’s finally time to get that never ending list ticked off and start prioritising what really matters… let’s get your s**t done!!
Our Family Personalities
Discover what parenting style you are currently practicing, and which is the ideal.
Identify your child’s personality type & preferred styles of communication.
Recognise your child as an individual and start communicating with them in a way that builds trust.
Discover your parenting style and discover why research suggests “authoritative parenting” is the ideal. Gain insight into your child’s personality type and preferred style of communication so that you can begin to speak their language and strengthen your relationship.
Our Emotional Toolkit
- Understand how the brain works in fight or flight mode.
- Identify your triggers and discover how to best manage them.
- Break the cycle of parenting that often stems from our own limiting childhood experiences.
- Increase your ability to listen and remain patient in any given situation.
Your Childs Lighthouse
Understand your child’s developmental age and start to recognise their needs.
Stay connected to your child, even during challenging situations.
Let go of parental control and start acting as a guide for your child to independently process their own emotional states.
Build the foundations for “family time”.
Connect with your children in ways that you both enjoy.
Give your child the gift of undivided attention.
Bring your family closer together with routine family meetings.
Find resolution by using non-violent communication strategies and master the skill of empathetic listening.
Resolve matters more quickly by avoiding escalation traps.
Guidance And Direction
Master calm-assertive communication.
Establish healthy boundaries and have them respected.
Come to terms with your own limiting beliefs around discipline and start taking action.
Focused Family Toolbox
Establish preventative maintenance strategies in your household to avoid unnecessary escalation traps.
Have a quick and easy “toolbox” of practical solutions for challenging situations.
Focused Family Transition
- Decrease feelings of failure by learning the fundamental foundations of ACT.
- Understand regression and resistance and how to best deal with them.
- Unlock the secret weapon of self-forgiveness.
- Recognise when you may need more support.
but first we must learn to recognise when we may need more support and understand it is normal for there to be trial and error, especially when trying something new… don’t give up! Just accept and commit to moving forward. I promise you; you’ve got this!!